Couple Seeking Woman: The Needle in a Haystack
Venice Bloggs and Ryan Bloggs are a husband and wife team that write one of the best sex blogs on the internet: FuckBlogging.com.
I asked Venice Bloggs if she would be willing to do a guest post for us and she was nice enough to oblige. So please enjoy her take on the complications of finding a woman for a happily married threesome.
On our blog, I’ve made it very clear that I was ready and willing to lose my “girlginity,” which basically means being with a woman sexually. But that doesn’t mean that because I’ve had a sexual awakening I’m ready to pounce on anything with a pair of hot tits and a pussy, and it certainly doesn’t mean I get a free pass to fuck any woman I want. There’s a process, if you will, in seeking a woman who we will be allowing into our lives. This complicated process would be akin to finding the proverbial needle in a haystack.
By putting our business out there for the world to read and judge us by, I realize that I might be scaring off potential “partners,” but conversely, it will also allow me to broadcast my requirements, my prerequisites, and my standards – something everyone should do with every sexual partner in order to get as close to exactly what they want. Be picky, don’t settle.
I won’t be jumping into anything because I have so much to consider. I’m not single; I’ve found my soul mate. But now, I’m on a mission to find my “holemate,” so to speak. I’m not looking for a female version of my man or a second wife for him. For a relationship like mine and Ryan’s, our ideal triad would be filled by a female agreeable to a no-strings-attached situation, which should not be misconstrued as her constant availability for a booty call. In fact, that is the exact opposite of what I want. I’m interested in finding a friend, a good friend, one who I can talk to and understand my marriage and be open with my limitations.
Ryan has been a loyal man to me, so rewarding him by adding a female to our sex life while also exploring my bi-curious side would serve us both. And I would absolutely love to spoil my man in a safe, reciprocated way. We’re a territorial couple, but there are exceptions. Ryan would allow me and her to be 100% intimate with each other in any way. However, I’d want Ryan to be with me. This is where things get complicated, as I do not want Ryan to be a creeper in the corner.
The female has to be open to both of us, enough so that she is comfortable being nude in front of Ryan, and him being nude in front of her. If the moment calls for him just watching, I’d want her to be relaxed and turned on by him in the room, not uncomfortable. Depending on how we all feel, I am open to Ryan being a part of the moment in a limited fashion, but not okay with any sort of penetration. However, I would love for Ryan to fuck me as I lick her vagina, or have her lick my vagina as he fucks me.
Although Ryan has never expressed the desire to fuck anyone else, he will get to see another woman’s breast and pussy, he will get to have us both in the same room, he will get to see two women fuck in front of him, he will get to see me suck his dick in front of her, and he will have the privilege of having this other woman lick his balls, lick my juices off of his body, and enjoy and share my excitement of trying something for the first time. There are so many possibilities to how we can enjoy this new person in our sex life all while following our rules.
She will not just be a woman who follows these boundaries, but a friend who understands our relationship and how we operate as a couple. There doesn’t have to be a mutual physical attraction, but she and Ryan must both like each other’s personalities. She can’t be disgusted or turned off by him or turned off by me being intimate with him either; this is important when all three of us are together. If she and I are into each other and enjoyed each other sexually, I believe the territorial feelings in me will become less and less. With a budding friendship the idea of sharing becomes less threatening. If this were a random person we met in a club, the jealousy, regret, and resentment would eat me up inside.
I believe that this initial move to open up your marriage can go either one of two ways: becoming full swingers or strengthening your relationship by exploring more avenues of both partners’ sexualities. Of course we are practioners of the latter. Brought on by perhaps an early mid-life crisis or a much-needed change, this was a mutually agreed upon decision which cannot succeed without the other’s blessing. I imagine there are many couples just like us who are seasoned in their marriage/long-term relationships and finally getting the courage and have progressed to taking their love to a higher level who describe themselves as “experimental” or “looking for fun.”
I could definitely see this woman as being married and/or with children. I could even see her as being single, but again, she has to have the same values as us and live by them. The only concern I’d have is her non-loyalty to us and the threat of STDs that comes with the mindset and behavior of a single person. But if we never find a female who is compatible with us, neither I nor Ryan would lose any sleep over it. To me, it’s not the destination I’m concerned with, it’s the journey. My journey which started with a demure little girl who didn’t know how to use her voice to express herself and ended up with a strong-willed woman who rocks her man’s world twice a day with every hole in her body. I mentioned a sexual awakening because that’s exactly what it was: a realization that life is too short to fuck in the missionary position. This realization came with open-mindedness to try anything sexually related – learning to deepthroat, craving anal, and opening up our bedroom.
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