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  • How Can I Get Better At Riding My BF’s Cock? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    This is Chico’s Sex Advice, a semi-regular column where I, Chico Dusty, apply my knowledge of all things sex to solve your sex problems, answer your sex questions and provide you with general sex advice.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com and I’ll solve all your problems.

    Today, a reader who calls herself  Miss Moon writes…

    “I’m terrible at being on top. Cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, I can’t do it! I suck at riding. I know I’m not doing it right, which makes riding him embarrassing and it gets harder and harder for me to work up the nerve to even try. My boyfriend has told me he doesn’t enjoy sex when I try to get on top, and as a result, we’re not having that as much sex as we’d like because he needs to do all the work. Do you have any sex tips for how I can get better at riding my boyfriend’s cock?”  Continue Reading

    November 19, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 8697

  • How Can I Have More Sex In A Night? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    This is Chico’s Sex Advice, a semi-regular column where I, Chico Dusty, apply my knowledge of all things sex to solve your sex problems, answer your sex questions and provide you with general sex advice.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com and I’ll solve all your problems.

    Today, Big Daddy MK asks…

    “How can I go multiple rounds with my girlfriend? I’m usually good for two rounds in a period of a couple hours. But I was wondering if you could help me reach a higher number.”  Continue Reading

    November 3, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 11346

  • Sharing My Girlfriend In A MMF Threesome- Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from KillerSheep Jay. Jay writes:

    “I’ve been with the same woman for the past two years and for some reason I’ve started having a fantasy about adding another man to our sex life. I was never one to even entertain the idea of a threesome with two men and a woman, but with my current girlfriend I find the idea very appealing. Is it normal to want to watch your woman have sex with you and another man? I have talked to my girlfriend about the fantasy and she is open to the idea. What is the best way to live this fantasy?”

    WOW! WHAT A DILEMA! Good thing you came to me, KillerSheep Jay.

    Let’s start by answersing your first question, “Is it normal to want to watch your woman have sex with you and another man?”   Continue Reading

    September 18, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 10177

  • Help! I Want To Fuck My Friend’s Brother – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from E.Sweetie. She writes:

    “Hi Chico. My best friend’s younger brother just moved back to our home town. When he left, he was a gangly teen, but now he’s returned a full-grown and gorgeous man. I’ve been in a bit of a sexual slump recently because there are hardly any attractive single men in our town. What I wanna know is, is it wrong that I want to sleep with my friend’s brother?”

    EXCELLENT QUESTION E.SWEETIE.

    Is it wrong that you want to fuck your friend’s brother? No. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to fuck your friend’s brother.  Continue Reading

    September 5, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 18748

  • How To Sex Chat With A Long Distance Girlfriend – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from JOHNNY ANONYMOUS:

    “Hi Chico. I was just wondering how I should ask my long distance girlfriend to have a sex chat with me? You know, I want to ask her in a way that won’t be rude or offensive to her. Thanks!”

    EXCELLENT QUESTION, JOHNNY ANONYMOUS!

    How does one broach the topic of engaging in a sex chat with a significant other that’s hundreds of miles away?

    Let me start by commending you for committing to a long distance relationship. Anyone who has been in a long distance relationship (including myself) will tell anyone that opts for a long distance relationship in lieu of breaking up that you’re making a terrible decision. Even relationships where you and your significant other live in the same city can be a massive undertaking. Long distance only amplifies the workload and rarely yields the same rewards.

    Aside from the few and far between days you spend together while in a long distance relationship (which are often amazing because it’s whole days having non-stop sex), the majority of your time together is spent on the phone, on Skype or whatever your preferred method of communication having the most mundane conversations about the daily going-ons of your life. More often than not (at least in my own experience), you end up cancelling plans with friends just to talk about nothing with your significant other as a means of proving you’re still faithful to your partner. And over time, you start resent your significant other because all you end up doing is keeping each other updated on how your lives are growing apart.

    So how can we avoid this resentment and the feeling that you’re growing apart? Well, in my mind the simplest solution is to make it more fun and worth your while with a sex chat.

    But how to bring it up?

    If I were you, I’d start by dropping hints in your conversation that you’d like to turn this daily update into a sex chat. Say something like, “Everyone’s away for the weekend. It’s so lonely in this apartment. What would you do with me if you were here with me right now?” And then if she replies with something like, “I’d fuck you in every room of your apartment. We’d fuck on every fuckable surface in your home.” She’s taken the bait and before you know it, you’re having the sex chat you’ve longed for.

    Of course, your girlfriend might be the shy type and may not engage in a sex chat so freely. If that’s the case, wait until you’re having a late-night Skype session. The idea here is that she’ll be on Skype in some comfortable bedtime clothes like a tank top or crop top or a big billowing T-shirt. If she’s dressed as such, remind her how much you miss her…specifically her body. Then beg for a little tease. You never know, she might be super flattered and let you see some titty. From there you can escalate into a more serious sex chat.

    But the best way to ask your long distance girlfriend to have a sex chat with you is simply by being direct. Just ask her straight up, “Would you ever consider having a sex chat with me?” Though you will struggle to ask this question due to its awkward nature, it’s honestly the best way to find out if a sex chat will ever be on the table. Chances are that she’ll be interested because she’s in this relationship too. She has to put up with making her schedule around keeping in contact with you as well with little reward too. It’s not rude to gauge her interest.

    Maybe she’ll be receptive to the idea of webcamming but not phone sex. Maybe she’ll want to sext and nothing more. Sexuality is a highly individual thing that can be manifested and expressed in a number of different ways. That’s why you need to take a deep breath, muster up some confidence, throw caution to the wind and ask if she’s ever considered having a sex chat. If so, you can guys can then work out the terms of your sex chatting. But as Wayne Gretzky said…you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. So take this shot and you might just score!

    As long as you’re not forcing a sex chat, I have a feeling that she’ll be receptive to the idea simply because it will help stoke the fires of your passionate relationship. Right?

    Worse case scenario, you can cite growing apart and resentment I spoke about earlier in this post. But first and foremost, gauge her interest and explain to her why engaging in some playful sex chats is something you think could help maintain a healthy long distance relationship. Just because you’re miles away doesn’t mean your sex lives need to take a hit.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

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    July 10, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 25941

  • How Do I Have Rough Sex – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from RYAN P. Ryan P writes:

    Chico, I’m in a pickle. I’m in a friends-with-benefits relationship with a Latina E.R. nurse who is older than me. The only problem is I may have talked myself up a bit. She’s into rough sex and so I dirty talked the shit out of her. I’m just not 100% sure what constitutes rough sex. Any thoughts?  Big fan of the blog, by the way.”

    Ryan, let me start by thanking you for your excellent question as well as your support. It means a whole lot. Now, onto the answer.

    The problem with rough sex is that there’s no universal definition that exists. A lot of different things can constitute rough sex and it’s ultimately the individual’s tastes that determine what they want when they say, “I’m into rough sex.”

    Let me give you an example. A long time ago, I was hooking up with this a Fine Arts student. In between one of our many dalliances, she let it slip that she was into rough sex. Obviously because I’m a self-confessed pervert, I asked her to show me what she meant by rough sex. She proceeded to get on all fours and asked to be serviced from behind. Now, doing it doggy style is not my definition of rough sex. In my porn-raddled brain, I consider this to be pretty standard procedure, however this was what she considered to be rough sex so I remained tight-lipped and obliged.

    Though given that your lady friend is an older Latina E.R. nurse, I’m willing to bet that she’s a bit more experienced and knows what she wants. Unfortunately for you, I don’t know exactly what that is so instead I’ll list some options for you to try and hopefully you happen to satisfy her need for rough sex.

    SPANKING! 

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    Though traditionally a form of parental violence, spanking in the bedroom can be lots of fun. Start out by petting and rubbing her behind in a playful manner. Then, when she least expects it, slap her butt lightly and immediately return to petting it. If she responds positively to the spanking with a moan or a giggle or something, gradually slap her butt more often and with more intensity. Keep a solid rhythm while slapping her ass for a transcendental effect.

    If she likes the palm of your hand spanking her ass, try upgrading to a paddle of some kind for next. Or try spanking her tits! Get experimental. But only if she’s into it.

    BITING!

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    Biting, if done right, can provide some incredibly erotic, animalistic pleasure. Slowly kiss and eventually start nibbling all over her body. Hot spots to hit are her neck, shoulders, hips, thighs, and butt.

    Don’t bite her pussy. You wouldn’t want her to bite your dick would you? It’s just common courtesy. Depending on her reaction, bite with more intensity, but never break the skin…I mean…unless that’s what she wants…

    HAIR PULLING!

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    Pulling your lady’s hair during sex can tug on hair follicles, which in turn stimulates the nerve endings at the back of the neck (which is an erogenous zone). On top of that, pulling hair during sex is an act of aggressive dominance but without being too violent.

    You’re asserting yourself, dominating her, which might just turn her on. Maybe she’s into getting dominated? I don’t know. Pull her hair, see how she reacts and take it from there.

    HOLD HER DOWN!

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    Think of this as your intro to bondage. There are times where women want to run their hands all over your body during sex, but don’t let them. Pin her arms down by the wrists and don’t let her move them at all. Pin her to your bed, up against a wall, a desk, wherever! This is an act of dominance that should tickle her rough sex fancy.

    If this drives her absolutely wild, then talk to her about using handcuffs or tethers the next time around because it’s basically the same thing as pinning her down, however she’s consenting to being submissive. And then once you’ve entered the wonderful world of bondage, you can get all kinds of kinky with whips, ropes and whatever else might peak your interest.

    CHOKING!

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    Honestly, I’m not a fan of choking during sex, but throwing a choke into sex definitely would then constitute the sex as rough. Because choking reduces the oxygen to the brain, and results in somewhat of a hallucinogenic state, it has developed into a fetish for many people. Sadly, many people have died in an attempt to achieve the light-headed orgasm. SO PLEASE BE CAREFUL.

    Personally, I recommend simply holding her neck rather than actually choking her because it provides that same sensation of submission and control. PLEASE BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL WHEN IT COMES TO EROTIC ASPHYXIATION. 

    JACKHAMMERING!

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    What do I mean when I say “Jackhammering”? I mean think of your dick as a jackhammer and her pussy is piece of concrete that needs to shattered into pieces for the sake of the whole city’s infrastructure. As far as rough sex goes, jackhammering is the most literal interpretation of rough sex. Just pound away with a pace and intensity that has only been seen by male pornstars.  You never know it might just work.

     

    Ryan P., I hope that these suggestions help inspire some confident moves in the bedroom with your older Latina E.R. nurse that likes rough sex.

    While my suggestions are foolproof, I will say this: ASK HER ABOUT WHAT SHE LIKES. The only way you’ll ever be sure of what she wants or how she defines rough sex is through communication. You might find out what gets her off through guesswork but my advice is to talk to her and find out firsthand. Plus, communicating with her shows that you care.

    But thank you for asking me first, it shows how much you care.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

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    Use the contact submission form.

    July 6, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 42505

  • Can You Suck Your Own Dick? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Jabar:

    “Hey Chico, was just wondering if it was possible for man to suck his own dick?”

    Oh so you want to suck your own dick eh?

    Every man, sooner or later, will always have a moment in his life where he attempts to achieve enlightenment aka suck his own dick.

    Being able to suck one’s own dick, while always a hit at parties, is not easy. It requires a lot of flexibility. Because even if you can bend your body in a way so that your mouth can reach the crotch, keep in mind that you’ll have to stay like that for a while, sucking your own dick until you cum or you’ve simply had enough.

    So my first piece of advice is to stretch. Stretch all the fucking time. Your legs, your back, your hips and ESPECIALLY YOUR NECK. Stretch everything. Because if you don’t have the flexibility, forget about sucking your own dick. Spend at least a week stretching and getting limber before attempting to suck your own dick, otherwise you’ve got yourself a one-way ticket to Disappointmentsville, population you and your unsucked dick.

    Besides flexible, you need to be thin to suck your own dick. If your belly is so big that you can’t even see your junk while naked, then I have bad news for you. You’ll never be able to suck your own dick.

    Now, if you feel flexible and thin enough to try to suck your own dick, these are the ways I recommend you try it:

    STEP 1. GET HARD

    Unless you’re a professional contortionist, there’s no way in hell that you’re going to suck your own dick without an extremely rigid erection. I recommend that you use a cock ring for maximum erection rigidity and so that you can stay hard while you struggle to get your lips to your own dick.

    STEP 2. PICK A POSITION

    Pick a position. Any position. Well, preferably one that you’ll be most comfortable sucking your own dick in.

    Popular auto-fellatio positions include:

    – Lying on your back and lifting your heels over your head, bringing your dick within sucking proximity. Lying on hard surfaces often increase the success rate because soft surfaces have too much give.

    – While seated, bend at the waist and bring your mouth down to your erection. Congratulations! You’re sucking your own dick!

    These might be somewhat strenuous positions to put yourself in, so if you have a really sex positive girlfriend (or perhaps one that refuses to give blowjobs anymore) ask for her help! She can help stabilize your body, guiding either your hips up to your face or your head down to the dick. Whatever works I guess!

    If you are able to suck your own dick through my advice, please don’t be shocked when you cum in your own mouth. Just remember all those times you came in a woman’s mouth. Fair is fair. Also, while attempting to suck your own dick, keep a phone nearby in case you injure yourself and need to go to hospital. You can always tell them that you were doing nude yoga and not trying to suck your own dick.

    If none of these techniques are not helping you suck your own dick, then I’m sorry but nature has decided that we were not meant to suck your own dick. Luckily, there’s an alternative. You can always go out for a fancy dinner or spend some dough on a thoughtful present and chances are someone will suck your dick for you. Enjoy that dick sucking while you can, because unfortunately, you are not blessed to do that to yourself all the damn time.

    Probably for the best. If all men could suck their own dicks, civilization as we know it would end. And of course the civilization as we know is the male-dominated we live in. I’m sure women would step in while we’re all busy sucking our own dicks, run the show, and everything would be fine. Possibly better.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

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    Use the contact submission form.

    June 26, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 23571

  • Can You Have Sex With A Woman On Her Period? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Schaaf. Schaaf asks:

    “The other night, I was having sex with my girlfriend and everything was going great, up until she noticed that there was a tiny bit of blood on the sheets while we were switching sex positions. Immediately after she saw the blood she said, ‘Oh, I think I just got my period. We need to stop.’ Not being very familiar when the menstrual cycles of women, I was happy to just comply but ever since then I’ve been wondering whether or not getting your period means you need to stop having sex. It’s safe to say that we were both having a good time until she spotted the blood. So Chico, can you have sex with a woman on her period?”

    EW! Very gross question Schaaf but an important one nonetheless. Aight, so can you have sex with a woman on her period?

    Yes. You can have sex with a woman on her period. I remember thinking the same thing many years ago, that once a woman starts menstruating the whole area gets shutdown for maintenance. While some women just prefer not to have sex while on their periods, if they so desire they can.

    Honestly, it all depends on how the woman on her period feels. Some girls don’t like the idea of having sex while on their period, and who can blame them? The menstrual blood, tampons, and sanitary pads. How could you be in the mood?

    But for those of you women out there who are willing to try having sex while on your period, there is plenty of upsides. It’s common for women to feel hornier during the first few days of menstruation due to changes in hormones. Many women also report that their menstruation seems to end sooner than if they had not had sexual intercourse. This is probably because the muscle spasm from orgasms allow the flow to come out quicker than usual. Furthermore, the hormones your body releases during sex help relieve cramps, depression, and irritability.

    The most important thing you need to remember about having sex with a woman on her period is that she can still get pregnant. A lot of people think that because the body is clearing the contents of the uterus, there’s absolutely no way you can get pregnant. That’s not true. You always have to be careful.

    So to answer your question Schaaf, yes it is possible for women to have sex while on their periods. In fact, there are a few benefits to having sex on your period. However, periods aren’t something that us men have to deal with, so don’t pressure her too much. Fact is, if she’s not into it then you’re out of luck.

    Oh but if she does agree, get some towels…

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

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    June 13, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips, Sexual Health • Views: 23022

  • Does Masturbation Make Women Less Attractive? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Monica. Monica asks:

    “Recently you had an article about how if a guy masturbates more often he has less testosterone in his pheromones and not as attractive to women.  My question is does something similar happen to women?  Does masturbating more or less affect a females attractiveness to men?”

    Excellent question Monica!

    Well, I’ve just spent the last little while reading about pheromones in females and there is absolutely no research done on the effects of masturbation on female pheromones. So the short answer to your question is no one knows if masturbation makes women subconsciously less attractive to men because there’s never been a team of researches willing to tackle the topic. What can I say? Female masturbation has been taboo for a while.

    Now that’s out of the way, allow me to tell you why masturbation makes women more attractive.

    I feel like I speak for most men when I say that we want to give you as many orgasms as possible during sex so that you’ll think we’re good at sex. However, women, like their bodies, are complicated. There isn’t one universal trick to getting a woman off. And the way to get you off starts with knowing how to get yourself off through masturbation.

    Maybe I just lean to the submissive side, but I like it when a woman knows what she wants and communicates it to me. Not only do I know that I’m doing more or less the right thing to pleasure her, but the confidence and assertiveness can be very arousing.

    I’m sorry that this edition of Chico’s Sex Advice is so short but it’s just because it’s so simple.

    Science has no evidence that masturbation makes women less attractive, but I just know through life experience that women who masturbate are more in tune with their bodies and sexual desires, which ultimately makes the sex better and then make them more attractive because of their experience.

    So yes, masturbate. Masturbate as often as you want. It will only succeed in making you more in touch with your sexuality, which will make you more attractive.

    At least to me. Love you girl.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

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    May 12, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 16080

  • Is It Ok To Lose My Virginity To A Prostitute? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and

    V writes:

    “I am an 18 male and my question is of you think that it is acceptable in the 21st century for a man to lose his virginity to a prostitute? With all the pressure on teens to be fit, charming, look like Channing Tatum, be packing a penis the same size as a ruler and be an amazing lover it’s very hard for some males I believe to have to confidence to even try a one night stand let alone a real relationship.

    I have just come to the conclusion that seeing a prostitute to lose my virginity might be like seeing a hairdresser to cut my hair, your paying a professional (of sorts) in that field of work. But this is all from my experience so your knowledge may differ.”

    WOW. Now that’s a fucking question. Thanks V for taking the time to write me. Now onto the advice…

    Since prostitution is illegal pretty much everywhere besides a handful of countries, I think that makes losing your virginity to a prostitute unacceptable by default. If you live in one of the countries where prostitution is legal, then by all means go for it. However, if you’re in a country where prostitution is illegal then you’re just putting yourself at risk to catch some kind of sexually transmitted disease because the sex workers are unregulated. If only the world would see the benefits of legalizing and regulating the sex industry, but that’s a whole different issue.

    The problem here is the pressure.

    Way back when I was still a virgin, I remember feeling the very same anxiety you feel now. But let me tell you, that pressure to be well-endowed, fit, charming, and be an amazing lover is not real. It comes for your understanding of sex, and your understanding of sex isn’t based on the act itself but its representation in the media.

    Losing your virginity to a prostitute, a close friend or a stranger you met at a bar will all be equally awkward and uncomfortable. What I’m having trouble understanding about your question is how the pressure will evaporate once you lose your virginity. 15 minutes of sex won’t make your anxieties disappear, right?

    Honestly, I don’t think losing your virginity will change anything. Even after you’ve lost your virginity you’ll still feel pressure to be fit and charming to attract other potential mates. And as your sexual career progresses, you’ll find that there’s no single criteria for good sex. Everyone is different with different sexual tastes. You shouldn’t feel pressure because the key to being an amazing lover is finding someone with whom you’re sexually compatible with. And ain’t no one knows how to do that, so there’s nothing to worry about.

    All in all, I know losing your virginity seems like a big deal but it isn’t. You’ll have sex and you’ll find that you’re still the same person. And in time, you’ll forget the details of how it actually happened until what you’re remembering is just a shadow of a memory.

    How many times will you remember a certain afternoon? An afternoon so deeply apart of your being that you can’t even conceive your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even that.

    Sorry to get all grandiose on you V but I just want you to realize that the pressure you feel to lose your virginity is insignificant. You’ll lose it eventually. You’ll have lots of sex at times. You won’t have sex at all at times. Life just ebbs and flows and the only thing you can do is make the best with what you got.

    April 30, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 11455

  • Does Masturbation Make You Less Attractive? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible. Today’s question comes from “E.P.”

    E.P. asks:

    “I’ve been masturbating every day since I was a teen. Recently, I took a month-long hiatus from masturbation and I found that women were more attracted to me. So what I’m wondering is, does regular masturbation make  you less attractive to women on some subconscious level?”

    I’m not sure that regular masturbation makes you less attractive to women on some subconscious or pheromonal level, but over-indulging in masturbation might be hurting your own subconscious motivation to go out and meet women.

    An old study in Psychology Today (so old that it’s now impossible to find, sorry) found that testosterone levels in men is higher than average when abstaining from sex, masturbation or any kind of orgasm. Chronic masturbation can leave your body depleted of testosterone, which is bad for attracting women because testosterone is what fuels the male libido and sex drive. Men who have abstained from orgasming for at least 7 days saw a spike in their testosterone levels.

    Masturbation makes the release of sexual frustration easy. Especially with super high-quality free porn websites like Sex.com. Meanwhile, attracting women is slightly more complicated than opening your browser. Though I have no science to back me up, I personally believe that life rewards those that take the hard road. So resisting the urge to masturbate whenever you’re feeling horny will make you motivated to seek that release through sex with a real, live, flesh and blood woman.

    The subconscious knowledge that you can always go home, turn on your computer, and masturbate lowers men’s confidence and their commitment to meeting and talking to real women. When you don’t give yourself that option and approach women with confidence, you’ll be more attractive to women because your libido and sex drive will be working over time and you’ll be acting with confidence. And as we all know, confidence is the most attractive quality any person can have.

    On the flip side, some men swear by the “Loaded Gun” theory. The “Loaded Gun” theory states that masturbating before going out to meet a woman helps stay relaxed, calm, and confident. That’s because when you experience an orgasm, your brain releases a hormone called dopamine, which causes the euphoric sensation. So there’s no reason to swear off masturbation altogether, because you might find that it’s easier to attract women with a brain full of dopamine.

    So to answer your question E.P., there’s no conclusive evidence that masturbation makes you less attractive to women. Masturbation can affect your motivation to go out and meet women, but it might also help.

    The thing about people is that we’re all different. Some men will find that scaling back their masturbation will bring their game way up, others might find that masturbating regularly is the only thing helping them meet women.

    All I can do is suggest you try both ways and see what works best for you.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

    OR

    Use the contact submission form.

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex. If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible. Today’s question comes from "E.P." E.P. asks: "I've been masturbating every day since I was a teen. Recently, I took a month-long hiatus from masturbation and I found that women were more attracted to me. So what I'm wondering is, does regular masturbation make  you less attractive to women on some subconscious level?" I'm not sure that regular masturbation makes you less attractive to women on some subconscious or pheromonal level, but over-indulging in masturbation might be hurting your own subconscious motivation to go out and meet women. An old study in Psychology Today (so old that it's now impossible to find, sorry) found that testosterone levels in men is higher than average when abstaining from sex, masturbation or any kind of orgasm. Chronic masturbation can leave your body depleted of testosterone, which is bad for attracting women because testosterone is what fuels the male libido and sex drive. Men who have abstained from orgasming for at least 7 days saw a spike in their testosterone levels. Masturbation makes the release of sexual frustration easy. Especially with super high-quality free porn websites like Sex.com. Meanwhile, attracting women is slightly more complicated than opening your browser. Though I have no science to back me up, I personally believe that life rewards those that take the hard road. So resisting the urge to masturbate whenever you're feeling horny will make you motivated to seek that release through sex with a real, live, flesh and blood woman. The subconscious knowledge that you can always go home, turn on your computer, and masturbate lowers men's confidence and their commitment to meeting and talking to real women. When you don't give yourself that option and approach women with confidence, you'll be more attractive to women because your libido and sex drive will be working over time and you'll be acting with confidence. And as we all know, confidence is the most attractive quality any person can have. On the flip side, some men swear by the "Loaded Gun" theory. The "Loaded Gun" theory states that masturbating before going out to meet a woman helps stay relaxed, calm, and confident. That's because when you experience an orgasm, your brain releases a hormone called dopamine, which causes the euphoric sensation. So there's no reason to swear off masturbation altogether, because you might find that it's easier to attract women with a brain full of dopamine. So to answer your question E.P., there's no conclusive evidence that masturbation makes you less attractive to women. Masturbation can affect your motivation to go out and meet women, but it might also help. The thing about people is that we're all different. Some…

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    April 10, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 40684

  • How To Make 69ing More Fun – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    69ing!

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Keegan. Keegan writes:

    “Hi Chico! I just 69’d with my girlfriend for the first time and we were sort of disappointed with it. If we could, we would nominate 69ing for the most overrated sex acts. Do you have any tips to make 69ing better?”  Continue Reading

    February 27, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 10934

  • How Do I Increase My Sexual Stamina – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    You’re going to need it for Valentine’s Day

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Dave. Dave asks:

    “Is there anything I can do to increase my sexual stamina? I feel like I don’t last long enough in the bedroom to give my girlfriend orgasms. Any advice to offer?”

    Excellent question Dave! There are lots of ways you can increase your sexual stamina and your timing is absolutely perfect because Friday is Valentine’s Day and you’re going to need as much sexual stamina as possible.   Continue Reading

    February 11, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 8600

  • How Do I Talk To Girls? – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    What the hell are you supposed to say?

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from friend of the Sex.com News, Nikitas. Nikitas writes:

    “I don’t have any problems with my looks or my clothes, I mean I’m confident about myself but I only have one problem when it comes to girls. How do I meet them ? When I see a girl in a club dancing and looking at me, I don’t know what to say after I get her name. Could you please let me know how to do that?”   Continue Reading

    February 7, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 6060

  • How Do I Dirty Talk? – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    Dirty Talk!

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex. Today’s question comes from KC Sunshine. KC writes:

    “Hi Chico. My girlfriend wants me to talk dirty to her during sex. Do you have any advice for someone who hasn’t done much dirty talking in their sexual career?”

    Excellent question, KC!

    My first piece of dirty talk advice is to be confident.

    I know an issue I’ve always had with dirty talk is feeling self-conscious. Maybe you’re the same way. How can anyone not feel like a complete moron when you’re whispering, “I’m going to spread them gams and pour sour cream all over them thighs.” Right?

    So how can you be confident in your dirty talking abilities? Well, I’ll tell you how I became confident. All you need to do is remember that during sex you look incredibly stupid. You’re naked, maybe a little sweaty, all your uncoiffed pubic hair is in plain sight, so what’s the harm in saying stupid things? Once you’re naked and she’s naked, you have nothing to lose.

    You’re probably now thinking, “Well, dirty talk with confidence. I can do that. But what should I say?” Well, KC, I’m sorry but I can’t help you. It’s up to you to figure out how to dirty talk your girlfriend.

    If you want, I could take an evening off and spend it dirty talking your girlfriend and I’ll let you know what she likes.

    If not, all you can do is try things. The nice thing about dirty talk is that there’s a pretty reliable formula you can follow until you’re comfortable freestyling it.

    #1. Say what you want to do to them.

    Want to tie your partner up? Want to spank them? Want to spread their legs and pour sour cream all over them gams? JUST TELL THEM. It’ll be super hot.

    #2. Do what you’re going to say.

    Following through on your dirty talk promises in step 1.

    #3. Say what you just did.

    This prolongs the entire experience and may invite more sex from your partner.

    Does that make sense?

    Ultimately, all you can really do is say anything with confidence and see how your partner reacts to it. Maybe she wants to be degraded with your dirty talk? Maybe she wants to feel like your sexual master? Maybe she doesn’t care if you say anything at all and she just want you to try dirty talk because she wants more noise during sex?

    Sound is an important part of sex because it just adds more sensory stimulation. So whether you’re dirty talking or just more moaning, you’ll figure it out.

    Good luck, KC!

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to chicodustyblog@gmail.com

    OR

    Use the contact submission form.

    PS. KC, you can learn a lot about dirty talk from Tori Black:

    January 28, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 1782

  • Why Are You Trying To Choke Me With Your Dick? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Today’s question comes from friends of the blog KenSexy and her College Roommates (whom you may remember from the Rough Sex and Sex On The First Date edition of Chico’s Sex Advice). She wants to know…

    What’s up with guys wanting us to choke on their dick? You know… Pushing our heads down ’til we awkwardly make that terrible sound.

    We’ve done our research and this is a very common (as in always) thing no matter the type of guy. What’s good about it? Is it the feeling or the idea and sight of us choking on it that you like?”  Continue Reading

    January 21, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 10321

  • Sex On The First Date – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    First Date!

    Sex is complicated. No one understands that better than me. That’s why if you have a question about sex, I’m prepared to answer your questions with sexpert sex advice in this special Sex.com Blog feature, Chico’s Sex Advice.

    Today’s question comes from friends of the blog KenSexy and her College Roommates (whom you may remember from the Rough Sex edition of Chico’s Sex Advice). She wants to know…

    “Is it still taboo to have sex on the first date? Does it ruin the chances of anything serious?

    Yours truly,
    3 College Roommates”  Continue Reading

    January 16, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 7351

  • My Internet Girlfriend’s Virginity – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    Internet Girlfriend

    Sex is complicated. No one understands that better than me. That’s why if you have a question about sex, I’m prepared to answer your questions with sexpert sex advice in this special Sex.com Blog feature, Chico’s Sex Advice.

    Today’s question comes from fan of the blog, Justin. Justin writes:

    “Okay. I met this woman online and we have talked for nearly a year and I am in love with her. I don’t know if she knows. She’s a virgin and she is afraid to have sex because she knows people who have been knocked up…I was wondering if there is a way to let her know that I will not hurt her or leave her and that she will feel safe and loved? And have sex with me?”  Continue Reading

    January 14, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 1402

  • Break Up Sex: Yes or No? – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    Break up sex is this good

    Sex is complicated. No one understands that better than me. That’s why if you have a question about sex, I’m prepared to answer your questions with sexpert sex advice in this special Sex.com Blog feature, Chico’s Sex Advice.

    Today’s question comes from good friend of the blog Reallee Me. Reallee Me asks:

    “Question: Should people actually have break up sex? Is it better to have it before or after breaking up with someone? Thanks.”  Continue Reading

    January 10, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 4934

  • Satisfying Women With Your Small Penis – Chico’s Sex Advice

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    Bummer…

    Sex is complicated. No one understands that better than me. That’s why if you have a question about sex, I’m prepared to answer your questions with sexpert sex advice in this special Sex.com Blog feature, Chico’s Sex Advice.

    Today’s question comes from loyal Sex.com Blog pawn Fredric. Fredric writes:

    “How can someone satisfy a woman with a small penis?”

    Continue Reading

    January 8, 2014 • Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 13297