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  • Fifty Shades of…Health? Kinky sex is good for you!

    Coleen Singer is a writer, photographer, film editor and all-around geeky gal at Sssh.com, where she often waxes eloquent about sex, porn, sex toys, censorship, the literary and pandering evils of Fifty Shades of Grey and other topics not likely to be found on the Pulitzer Prize shortlist. She is also the editor and curator of EroticScribes.com. When she is not doing all of the above, Singer is an amateur stock-car racer and enjoys modifying vintage 1970s cars for the racetrack. Oh, she also likes porn.

    std001 Fifty Shades of...Health? Kinky sex is good for you!

    Well let’s just file this under “Who knew? But I’m not surprised!”

    Menshealth.com shared a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine that shows a correlation between mental well being and getting yoru freak on. 900 people who practice some form of BDSM were interviewed and shown to be more happy and healthy than their vanilla counterparts, showing more evidence of general mental well being, confidence and security in their relationships.  Continue Reading

    October 29, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 6387

  • Telltale Signs You’re About To Have First Date Sex

    Picture this: it’s Friday night and you’ve been grinding away at work for the last week. You’re tired but you want to relish in the glory that is the weekend. Some of your friends may be hitting the bars, but you? You’ve got a first date.

    In a world where dating sites, hook up apps and general sexiness are rampant, it’s easy to lose sight of what some would call a dead art form: the classic platonic date. Some would say it’s nothing more than a vessel for sex and it’s hard to disagree with that fact. Sex is pretty fantastic and first date sex is among some of the most sexy situations you can place yourself in.

    So how do you decipher what’s a booty call and what’s an actual date? Both could potentially end in sex, which is awesome, but there’s a lot of grey area to take in to consideration.

    A booty call is much more tangible than a date and it’s likely that you’ve already fucked before if you’re on a booty call. There’s no real reason to be together other than to fuck, and the sex tends to come quickly as you’re both there for one reason. It lacks that romantic feel which tends to go hand in hand with seduction and love.

    A real date on the other hand is something you prep for with a fresh outfit and maybe even a dinner reservation. Spending money isn’t a must but you’re much more likely to drop a few bucks on a date than on a booty call. The reality of a date is that you’re there to enjoy the other person’s company and share some time and ideas. It’s a bonding process which can be very sexy or have no sexual connotation at all – it really depends on who your date is and their personality.

    I personally suck at dating, but I do love first date sex. It’s a rare feat for those who can pull it off and there are a couple telltale signs that your first date is going to eventually end up in some steamy sexual exploration:  Continue Reading

    September 3, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 13573

  • Top 17 Worst Texts From Straight White Boys

    In this time of texting-based courtship, some men have gotten it into their heads that it’s totally OK to text women all their depraved thoughts as a means of attracting them.

    Why?

    I’m not sure.

    Because some of the things these men are texting to women were said in real life, they’d be meet with a quick slap or thrown drink to the face. But since there’s no risk of being slapped or having a drink thrown at them, then what’s the harm of texting them something inappropriate, right?

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    June 25, 2014 • Funny, Stuff • Views: 10782

  • Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Trying To Get Girls

    The weekend is here and, as we all know, this is the time where we all go out to shitty bars and parties in hopes that someone will take pity on us and lay us.

    Some of you men might be more proactive than me in trying to get laid in the sense that you actually approach women and run game to get them to sleep with you. To help you up your attraction game for the coming weekend, I will now tell you the Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Trying To Get Girls.

    Follow this advice carefully and you might just have sex this weekend.

    10. Social media is not where you want to break the ice

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    How do you get girls to notice you? The easiest way to get her to notice you is to like every single one of her Facebook photos, write on her wall and favorite all her tweets, flooding her phone and email with notifications. But it’s also down right creepy and pathetic and lazy. Unless you’re on a dating site or app, the internet is not a tool for you to get laid.

    So what should you do? TALK TO THEM IN PERSON! It’s really not so bad once you get the ball rolling. Just be confident you dumb idiot.

    9. Grinding is not a good way to break the ice

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    I totally understand that when your brain is full of testosterone and alcohol, cutting through the dance floor and rubbing up on as many warm bodies might make you think you’re turning every woman in the club on, but the truth you’re being a jackass.

    Guys, if grinding on as many women as you can is your pick-up technique, let me ask you this: ARE YOU TRYING TO GET SLAPPED? Because that’s what you gon get if you gon be grinding up in the club like that.

    Dance like someone who is not totally desperate for sex and don’t force your presence on the club. If a phone number or a hook-up is in your future, let it find you. Don’t force it.

    8. Resist the urge to drunk text

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    Again, I understand why you think, “I’ll just text everyone I’ve ever slept with to see if they’re free to have sex with me right now,” is a good idea after a couple of Cosmos, but it’s not.

    You’re not being sneaky or unassuming. Girls absolutely know that when you text them out of the blue at 2:30 in the morning, you’re trying to get some. Why is this a bad thing? Because girls talk. Amongst themselves. And if you keep doing this, every girl in town will know you as the guy that sends creepy booty texts every weekend even though you only hooked up once and it was because you were at your little sister’s bridal shower earlier that day and you just felt like making a mistake because you couldn’t bear to live with the jealously that your little sister Angela was getting married before you.

    Lay off the drunk texts, aight?

    7. Be Realistic

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    Many men have highly-inflated views of themselves. Don’t.

    Above is supermodel Irina Shayk. You will never date her. Ever. So don’t waste your time trying to impress her. Be realistic about who you’re going after.

    Now I’m not saying that there is a league system in place for human mating, but there totally is and you have to work your way up the ranks just like any pro athlete.

    Wait hang on…is that why they call it game?

    6. Be aware of your surroundings

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    It’s not always appropriate to start hitting on a beautiful woman as soon as you see her. She’ll just think you’re a desperate jerk with no class if you pick the wrong place to hit on her.

    For example, some women at the gym are there to work out. Women attending funerals probably don’t want to be hit on. Grocery shopping is super boring, leave them be. People get raped on subways (probably), so don’t approach the woman riding the subway late at night because she probably thinks you’re a rapist.

    Just be mindful of where you are and what’s happening around you and your game can be applied more effectively.

    5. Boring ass compliments get you nowhere

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    Above you see the incredibly gorgeous Alyssa Arce. What do you say to her if you want to attract her in real life?

    “Wow. Alyssa Arce, you are incredibly gorgeous.”

    Congratulations, you are now the 50th million person to call her “incredibly gorgeous”. Is that supposed to impress her? She’s only heard it 50 million times before.

    Compliments aren’t just nice things you say to people, guys. They are especially not supposed to be dull observations. The next time you compliment a woman, which I hope is already a part of your game, say something unique and memorable. Otherwise you’re just another fucking spec of sand in the hourglass.

    4. Don’t talk about yourself too much

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    Rattling off every attractive detail of your charmed life will make you look like an overcompensating dickhead. By contrast, drilling a girl with a full clip of questions will make her feel like she’s at an interview for a job that she doesn’t even want. It’s a difficult balance to maintain.

    But here’s a tip to maintaining the conversational balance: think of your conversation as sex.

    Like sex, conversation isn’t all about you, nor is it all about her. It’s about the two of you reacting to each other, coming together as one. Otherwise it’s just masturbation. So ask yourself before you start a conversation with someone you’re attracted to, “Do you want to have sex or just masturbate?”

    3. Don’t rely on booze

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    Though alcohol can sometimes give you a much needed confidence boost, just think about how hard peeing in a urinal can be while wasted. How you going to spit game in that state?

    You’re not. (Unless of course there happens to be a lonely girl as wasted as you are, then it’s a match made in heaven…but she’s likely to get poached by some scumbag)

    Drink in moderation because ultimately you need a clear head if you want to win at these mindgames.

    2. Avoid employees

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    How many times have you thought to yourself, “This waitress/barista/bartender/stripper/promotional model is totally into me?”

    YEAH, ONLY BECAUSE IT’S A PART OF THEIR FUCKING JOB.

    They’re just making their living off the gullibility of men and who can blame them? It’s hard out there. It’s especially hard for these girls because the minimum flirting they do as a part of their job only ensures that they get hit on from the moment their shift starts until they quit that job and start a new career.

    Just leave these girls alone. Be polite and nice and not overly creepy. They’ll appreciate that.

    1. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

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    Ultimately, you can’t take anything you read on the internet seriously, and that includes the Sex.com Blog.

    These rules or tips or whatever are just things that I’ve learned over time through my own personal experiences, but they could be the complete opposite from your own.

    Here’s what you should do: Believe in yourself.

    If what you’ve been doing has been working, then keep doing it.

    If not, then maybe try something new? Experiment!

    All that matters is that you’re happy and healthy. If you have those two things, consider yourself very lucky and just enjoy it.

    June 20, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips, TOP 10's • Views: 30771

  • Advice on Leaving the “Friendzone”

    I (Your friendly neighborhood lesbian, Red Velvet) got a message asking for dating advice on my Tumblr yesterday and I figured this is something others struggle with too, so I might as well answer it publicly here.

    The question goes as follows:

    I’ve been friends with this girl for almost two years and when she’s drunk she’s all over me but when she’s sober, we always talk about how sad she is about her exbf. I don’t want to take advantage of her when she’s drunk but it’s hard because I like her and I really want to have sex with her. Do you have any advice on leaving the friendzone?”

    I really dislike this whole idea about the “friendzone”. It’s not only guys who talk about it, girls do too. The problem I have with it is a lot of people think that just being there emotionally for a person is enough to make them fall in love with you but it isn’t. A good relationship has emotional support, but they aren’t only about that.

    Most of the time I’d much rather be with the person who has the power to upset me than the person I complain about them to. The reason why is not because “girls like douchebags” but because when you like someone, your feelings give them the power to upset you even about little things. If you didn’t like them, you would just be like “that dude is a douchebag, fuck him”.

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    Having said that, I’m going to move onto what you really need to be doing to show her you like her.

    It’s time to change things up a bit. Show her that you’re more than just a therapist. If her ex boyfriend is all you two ever talk about, then no wonder you haven’t left this so called “friendzone”. Show her things you like hoping she’ll like them too. Figure out what you guys have in common and bond over that. Tease her subtly and see how she responds to that.

    To be honest, if she’s hanging off of you while drunk, there is obviously something there she’s not acknowledging because she’s either not ready or she doesn’t think you reciprocate.

    And if it turns out she still only wants to be friends with you, then to be honest there are millions of girls in the world who are going to be extremely hot, like the same things that you do, want to do them with you and will give you a fuzzier feeling than she will. Don’t you worry.

    If you have a question for a lesbian, you can ask me on my tumblr or in the comments section below.

    June 18, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 5704

  • Tinder Adds Sexting Feature

    Officially, Snapchat is a photo messaging application that allows users to take photos, record videos and add text or doodle all over them before they’re gone forever in ten seconds or less. That’s how Snapchat would like to be known as.

    In reality, Snapchat is an app that facilitates safe-sexts. The only real use for Snapchat is to take pictures of your dick, or perhaps boobs if you’re a lady, and send them to people you know when you’re feeling real horny. The reason Snapchat is the most effective way to share your dick pics is because once opened, your dick pic will disappear forever within the time you selected for it to last. Therefore, the likelihood of you being blackmailed a la Anthony Weiner is lower than with email or text messages.

    I say “lower” rather than “eliminate” because it is still possible for the receiver of the dick pic to screenshot your dick pic before it disappears. At least Snapchat notifies the sender of the dick pic so they can at least anticipate a blackmail in the upcoming future.

    However, Snapchat’s status as the most effective way to send safe-sexts is now being challenged by popular hook-up app Tinder. Their ephemeral photo sharer is known as “Moments” and it could really change the way you send dick pics.

    According to Tinder CEO Sean Rad (nice name you fucking loser), Tinder Moments should make it easier for people to star conversations on the app. Because when you can’t muster the courage to type “Yo”, at least now you can just take your pants off and snap a pick of your flaccid penis.

    Now I know what you’re thinking…”Why should I take a picture of my flaccid penis?”

    Easy. You start by showing your flaccid penis to open the conversation. Then, if the person you’re sexting on Tinder hasn’t already blocked you, they’ll write something like, “Yo, is that your dick?”

    Then you come back with, “Yeah it is. And if you like the look of my flaccid penis, then wait until you see my erect penis!”

    Whether or not you proceed with sharing a picture of your erect penis or try to entice them to see it in person is totally up to you. The point is not to give it all away. Just like a job interview. The person who gets hired is not the person who begs for the job, or the most docile candidate. The people that get worked the hardest to snag are the candidates who knew their own value. Simple as that.

    Anyways…

    Tinder’s Moments feature not only allows users to take a photo but also add a filter, doodle all over it, write a message and broadcast it to all their Tinder matches. Meanwhile, your Tinder matches will be able to view and like the photos for 24 hours before they disappear.

    What’s interesting about Tinder’s sexting feature is that the person who took the photo can keep their own gallery of “moments” forever. So rather than taking a new picture of your flaccid penis every time you get a new Tinder match, you’ll be able to amass a collection of your most flattering flaccid penis pictures and send the ones you feel are the most appropriate for your latest match.

    While I do think it’s cool that Tinder has added a new sexting feature, I wonder whether or not Sean “Nice Name You Fucking Loser” Rad is right about sending pictures being easier than writing a message.

    So what do you think?

    June 5, 2014 • Sex, Sex News • Views: 22189

  • Is Body Hair Sexy?

    Since it seems like everyone is trying to grow beards nowadays, razor companies, such as Gillette, seem to be panicking because men aren’t buying razors to shave their faces.

    In the good old days, beards were only worn by hippies or the homeless. But now, it’s acceptable for pretty much anyone to have a beard. So rather just lay back and accept lower profits, Gillette is now trying to sell men on the idea that if they’re not going to shave their face, they should buy a special new razor to shave their body hair.

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    May 14, 2014 • Polls, Stuff • Views: 10221

  • You’re More Likely To Get Cheated On If You Have A Big Penis

    I get thousands of emails every day. 99% of those emails are men asking me for sex advice about the size of their penises. Unfortunately, I have to ignore everyone asking about the size of their penises because I’ve already told you multiple times that NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE SIZE OF YOUR PENIS. Long, short, thick or thin, it really doesn’t matter what the dimensions of your penis are, as long as you keep it clean and communicate with your partner to maximize it’s pleasure giving ability.

    First of all, let me say that I understand why men are so obsessed with having a big penis. Men see a big penis as a symbol of power and sexual prowess. And in having a big penis, a man is then irresistible to women, giving them the best sex of their lives. But what you need to know is that that line of thinking is just your brain on porn.

    That said, a new study from Kenya, published in PLOSOne, may reassure you that having a small penis is actually a positive thing. Apparently, men with big penises are more likely to get cheated on by their wives.

    Researchers interviewed 545 Kenyan married couples to better understand relationship habits and factors for extramarital affairs in order to help stop the spread of HIV in the region.

    The couples were individually asked to self-report the size of the man’s erect penis size. Then, if the reported sizes were different, the researchers took the average of the two or the woman’s estimate (because you know men be lying about the size of their dicks).

    And the results were SHOCKING.

    “Every one inch longer penis increased the likelihood of women being involved in extra-marital partnership by almost one-and-half times,” the researchers wrote. “Women associated large penises with pain and discomfort during sex which precludes the enjoyment and sexual satisfaction that women are supposed to feel.”

    Couldn’t have said it better myself. Though you, a man, might think a big penis is a symbol of power and sexual prowess, it actually signifies pain and discomfort. SO STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR PENIS SIZE. The pointless pursuit of having a bigger penis will only push your sexual partner away because she’s not sexually satisfied.

    In fact, one woman interviewed for the study told the researchers the following: “Some penis may be large yet my vagina is small, when he tries to insert it inside, it hurts so much that I will have to look for another man who has a smaller one [penis] and can do it in a way I can enjoy.”

    Of course, there will always be size-Queens in the world, but they’re so few and far between that there’s absolutely no reason to feel self-conscious about your penis size (unless in the unlikely event that you have a big penis, which in that case you should be worried that you’re getting cheated on).

    [h/t: HuffingtonPost]

     

    April 24, 2014 • Sex News • Views: 12521

  • You Only Have 12 Minutes To Impress On A First Date Says New Study

    Do you feel like you’re the type of person that becomes more attractive as someone gets to know you? If you think you are, then prepare to be alone forever because new research says we only have 12 minutes to impress the opposite sex.

    AXA surveyed 2,000 people about their first date experiences and found that prospective sexual partners are immediately judged on their smiles (64%), whether or not they make eye contact (58%), and their tone of voice (25%).

    59% of people said that foul body odor was the most off-putting characteristic. Bad breath was the second most off-putting characteristic, repelling 53% of daters. And 38% were turned off if their date started swearing.

    When it comes to impressing a date, a quarter of the people surveyed said they make drastic changes to their appearance before a big date. Women prefer to get a new haircut, manicure, or wear a new perfume on a first date, where men mostly grow designer stubble to impress their date (which is indicative of men’s innate stupidity since beards aren’t attractive anymore).

    One in sixteen women (six per cent) and one in 20 men (five per cent) go on a diet in the lead up to a first date, which makes absolutely no sense because unless your date is several months away, dieting before a date won’t make you look slimmer. It will only make you feel bad because you’ve been without your comfort food.

    The point is…people form first impressions quickly. And no matter how wildly inaccurate that first impression may be, everyone is a stubborn prick and won’t want to budge on their first impression. Which is why when you’re on a first date, you need to impress the person you’re going on the date with in less than ten minutes. That doesn’t mean do something grand, that will only succeed in creeping them out.

    Let’s review what you need to do to impress a first date in less than 12 minutes:

    1. SMILE: Humans are programmed to return a smile. Even though you’re sweating bullets, smiling will make your date smile, which will put you both at ease, setting a comfortable atmosphere for the evening and help you focus on having fun.

    2. EYE CONTACT: Eye contact conveys sincerity, trustworthiness, and shows that you’re interested in the other person. All of which is highly erotic.

    3. LOOK GOOD: Dress nice and comfortably to make yourself comfortable and confident.

    4. SMELL GOOD: Making sure that your body and breath smell good conveys to your date that you have some self-respect. He or she doesn’t need to know that you’re a self-loathing mess until later.

    And if you don’t want to repel your date instantly, remember to avoid these TOP 5 FIRST DATE TURNOFFS:

    1. BODY ODOR. No one wants to date or have sex with someone that stinks.

    2. BAD BREATH. You ain’t getting kissed with the breath of a rotting corpse. It’s just too gross.

    3. SWEARING. Fuck if I know why the fuck this is on the fucking list, but just don’t fucking swear, ok fucker?

    4. SCRUFFY CLOTHES. You look like a homeless person. No one is going to date a homeless person…besides maybe another homeless person.

    5. NOT SMILING. Smile, alright? It’s important.

    So there you have it! Follow these simple Do’s and Don’ts of the first date and your date won’t immediately regret going on a date with you. That regret will come later when you have too much to drink and start over-sharing about something embarrassing that’s not funny. But at least you smell and look good.

    [h/t: The Daily Mail.]

    April 23, 2014 • Sex News • Views: 9514

  • Science Says Women Don’t Find Beards Sexy Anymore

    Alright guys, it’s time to shave off that scruff because scientists say that beards have reached their peak.  Researchers at the University of New South Wales (Australia) have reason to believe that big, bushy beards are no longer hot.

    The research team recruited 1,453 women and 213 men and asked them to rate the attractiveness of different images of men’s faces. Some participants were shown mostly full beards, while others were shown images of mostly clean shaven men. A third group was shown a mixture of different types of facial hair, from bald face to James Harden-sized beards.

    What they found was that the rarer the facial hair type, the more attractive it was to both men and women. I’m sure that you’ve noticed that for the last few years the popularity of beards has been high. So why then are they suddenly so unattractive? Well, it’s their popularity that’s made them unattractive. It’s an evolutionary phenomenon known as “negative frequency-dependent sexual selection.”

    “Big thick beards are back with an absolute vengeance and so we thought underlying this fashion, one of the dynamics that might be important is this idea of negative frequency dependence,” one of the study’s authors Bob Brooks said. “The idea is that perhaps people start copying the George Clooneys and the Joaquin Phoenixs and start wearing those beards, but then when more and more people get onto the bandwagon the value of being on the bandwagon diminishes, so that might be why we’ve hit ‘peak beard.’”

    In other words, the rarer a trait is, the more attractive it is.

    This shouldn’t come as a surprise because if you think about it, who are women going to be more attracted to in a room full of bearded men? One of the sixty guys with big bushy beards or the one clean-shaven man? Obviously the clean-shaven man because he is unique. The ability to resist jumping on the bandwagon communicates self-confidence, and confidence is the single most important trait one needs to demonstrate if they ever want to attract the opposite sex.

    So though the study that beards are no longer attractive, the lesson to be learned is that being unique and resisting popular trends will help you catch the eye of a cutie. But don’t mistake that for an endorsement of peacocking. Wearing a fuzzy hat and glow-sticks might make you unique, but you’re an asshole first.

    Just be yourself, look how you want to look, and you’ll be fine. It just helps if you’re clean shaven or stubbly for the next little while.

    April 17, 2014 • Sex News • Views: 7143