Hey everyone, Marni is back! It’s Thursday and this is your Hot Dating Tips of the day with Ask Marni by Sex.com. Marni is gently giving you expert advice on dating.
Here is a question she got from Ernesto on the Friend Zone:
I’ve known this girl for the last two years and we’ve been friends. Not because I wanted to be friends.
I finally said something to her about it and she said ” I don’t want to lose our friendship”. My sticking point is how to approach this. Do I stick to the being friends approach? I’ve told her to just be my friend for now.
So, would you say I should do the friends thing and just try build up something slowly again?
Or, would you suggest going with no contact for at least 3 or 4 weeks and trying to re-set things after the ?
I guess the first question to ask is yourself is: ” Are you really ok with just being friends with her for the rest of your life? Meaning there’s not a wait-for-you. And then, I’m her friend and I’m not only her friend and I’m ok with that.”
If the answer to that question is yes, then totally be her friend, but if you want something else for her than friendship, it’s false, which is unfair to you and to her.
Listen, she’s not trying purposely to hurt you or lead you on. But that it’s what’s happening and you seem to be ok with it.
My advice is to think honestly are you ok with just being friends.
If answer is no; then it’s time to separate from this girl. Give yourself some distance and don’t be her false boyfriend. Date other girls, sleep with others girls and keep in touch with this girl. I pretty much guaranty there is goint to be a shift in her attraction towards you and if not you’re out dating other girls so it doesn’t matter.
It’s a win-win in my eyes!
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