On Friday, the New York Times featured a first-person essay penned by none other than superstar adult performer Kayden Kross, chronicling her journey from a 21-year old stripper to present day where Kross is now a mother and engaged to male pornstar Manuel Ferrara.
Anyone who knows Kayden Kross knows that she’s an exceptionally talented writer. Her firsthand account of coming up in the porn industry in the interest of “securing her security” only to find love and family is fascinating and eloquent. And it’s her eloquence that allows her to be didactic without being heavy-handed. There are lessons to be learned from Kayden Kross’ New York Times piece, titled “For Kayden Kross, the Family Business Happens to Be Porn“, and to make sure you’ve spotted her lessons, we’ve highlighted them below
8. Got loans to pay off? Start stripping!
7. Despite the submissive and subservient roles women play, women usually make more money than the men (unlike any other industry).
6. Even pornstars can fall in love with a kiss.
5. Even pornstars get jealous when their partner shoots with someone else
4. Even pornstars want to settle down.
3. Family = compromise.
For Kayden Kross that means opting out of her lucrative contract, working exlcusively with Manuel Ferrara and other women (whereas Manuel gets to work with tons of other women), working less and caring primarily for their daughter.
2. It doesn’t matter if you lose your lover’s attention on a porn shoot to a fellow pornstar.
It’s no different than any other kind of cheating. Relationships unravel in mysterious ways when you’re not looking…even in you’re a pornstar.
1. Maintaining your love is all you can hope to do, no matter what life throws your way.