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  • How Can I Have More Sex In A Night? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    This is Chico’s Sex Advice, a semi-regular column where I, Chico Dusty, apply my knowledge of all things sex to solve your sex problems, answer your sex questions and provide you with general sex advice.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com and I’ll solve all your problems.

    Today, Big Daddy MK asks…

    “How can I go multiple rounds with my girlfriend? I’m usually good for two rounds in a period of a couple hours. But I was wondering if you could help me reach a higher number.”  Continue Reading

    November 3, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 10876

  • Sharing My Girlfriend In A MMF Threesome- Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from KillerSheep Jay. Jay writes:

    “I’ve been with the same woman for the past two years and for some reason I’ve started having a fantasy about adding another man to our sex life. I was never one to even entertain the idea of a threesome with two men and a woman, but with my current girlfriend I find the idea very appealing. Is it normal to want to watch your woman have sex with you and another man? I have talked to my girlfriend about the fantasy and she is open to the idea. What is the best way to live this fantasy?”

    WOW! WHAT A DILEMA! Good thing you came to me, KillerSheep Jay.

    Let’s start by answersing your first question, “Is it normal to want to watch your woman have sex with you and another man?”   Continue Reading

    September 18, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 9256

  • Don’t Let Your Girl Fake An Orgasm

    Every girl has done it at least once. Hell, I’ve even done it once too and I’m a lesbian. So why do women fake orgasms? Well, my colleague Chico Dusty has previously addressed this in an article about a study that surveyed 481 women and found that the top reasons were: to protect their partner’s feelings, to avoid awkward or negative moments, to increase their own arousal during sex or to get it over with already.  Continue Reading

    September 9, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 14871

  • Help! I Want To Fuck My Friend’s Brother – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from E.Sweetie. She writes:

    “Hi Chico. My best friend’s younger brother just moved back to our home town. When he left, he was a gangly teen, but now he’s returned a full-grown and gorgeous man. I’ve been in a bit of a sexual slump recently because there are hardly any attractive single men in our town. What I wanna know is, is it wrong that I want to sleep with my friend’s brother?”

    EXCELLENT QUESTION E.SWEETIE.

    Is it wrong that you want to fuck your friend’s brother? No. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to fuck your friend’s brother.  Continue Reading

    September 5, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 18597

  • Having Sex While On Your Period – Yay or Nay?

    There’s an unspoken rule amongst many men about ‘that time of the month.’  If your girlfriend is on her period, that’s your cue to break out a book or newspaper in bed for a week or so.  It’s kind of understandable – having sex while on one’s period can be an extremely messy activity.  Man’s reluctance to get in the menstrual mix has led, in turn, to many women remarking that ‘we can’t have sex, I’m on my period.’

    But why does this stigma exist?  I’ve personally had sex with people on their periods plenty of times, and, as long as your partner isn’t ‘flowin like crazy, it’s not a big deal.  In a way, I actually find it to be quite arousing, if the circumstances are right.

    So, as you’ve probably already guessed, I’m a staunch supporter of period sex.  But beyond any personal quirks of mine, there’s some actual objective benefits to fucking ’round that time of the month.

    Nerve recently took a very detailed look at the pros and cons of sex during menstruation, but here’s the Coles Notes for y’all lazy motherfuckers.  Continue Reading

    August 1, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips, Sexual Health • Views: 31740

  • 4 Tips You Need to Find a Female Threesome Partner

    So your girlfriend wants a threesome with another woman. Congratulations buddy, you have hit the jackpot. Seriously, you have. Some men will wait their whole life and never come to that moment.

    Now to just find a woman, right? Well before you start trying, I have 4 suggestions for you.

    Don’t do it on social networking/dating sites unless it’s specifically made for that.

      I do not know ANYBODY who has scored after messaging a bunch of lesbians on plenty of fish or anything of the sort. It sounds too creepy when you’re messaging someone about a threesome and most people on dating websites are looking for actual relationships, unfortunately.

     

    Don’t suggest one of her friends if she doesn’t. Even if she does, be wary.

      It might ruin your chance of a threesome if she thinks you’re just trying to sleep with one of her friends without calling it cheating, seriously. And just in general, if you’re planning on doing it with someone you know, make sure it’s someone you know it won’t be awkward with after. (Or someone you don’t want to sleep with again… because that’ll cause a ton of problems as you can imagine.)

     

    If you’re going to approach someone at a bar, do it together.

      A lot of the time a couple will begin with sending the girl or guy to flirt with their potential threesome partner and then slowly lead into it. That doesn’t work because you spend a lot of time for no reason if the person is going to get their hopes up and just end up being weirded out. If you approach the person together and offer to buy them a drink, that weeds out those who are going to say no right away

     

    Find a fetish party in your area! 

      This is actually the most fun of the four suggestions which is why I left it for last. Believe it or not, there are parties dedicated to fetishes AND threesomes. Fortunately I live in a big city, so there are a ton here. A quick google search should help you out there and hopefully it’ll be the same for you.

    Best of luck, my friends!

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    July 7, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 15106

  • How Do I Have Rough Sex – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from RYAN P. Ryan P writes:

    Chico, I’m in a pickle. I’m in a friends-with-benefits relationship with a Latina E.R. nurse who is older than me. The only problem is I may have talked myself up a bit. She’s into rough sex and so I dirty talked the shit out of her. I’m just not 100% sure what constitutes rough sex. Any thoughts?  Big fan of the blog, by the way.”

    Ryan, let me start by thanking you for your excellent question as well as your support. It means a whole lot. Now, onto the answer.

    The problem with rough sex is that there’s no universal definition that exists. A lot of different things can constitute rough sex and it’s ultimately the individual’s tastes that determine what they want when they say, “I’m into rough sex.”

    Let me give you an example. A long time ago, I was hooking up with this a Fine Arts student. In between one of our many dalliances, she let it slip that she was into rough sex. Obviously because I’m a self-confessed pervert, I asked her to show me what she meant by rough sex. She proceeded to get on all fours and asked to be serviced from behind. Now, doing it doggy style is not my definition of rough sex. In my porn-raddled brain, I consider this to be pretty standard procedure, however this was what she considered to be rough sex so I remained tight-lipped and obliged.

    Though given that your lady friend is an older Latina E.R. nurse, I’m willing to bet that she’s a bit more experienced and knows what she wants. Unfortunately for you, I don’t know exactly what that is so instead I’ll list some options for you to try and hopefully you happen to satisfy her need for rough sex.

    SPANKING! 

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    Though traditionally a form of parental violence, spanking in the bedroom can be lots of fun. Start out by petting and rubbing her behind in a playful manner. Then, when she least expects it, slap her butt lightly and immediately return to petting it. If she responds positively to the spanking with a moan or a giggle or something, gradually slap her butt more often and with more intensity. Keep a solid rhythm while slapping her ass for a transcendental effect.

    If she likes the palm of your hand spanking her ass, try upgrading to a paddle of some kind for next. Or try spanking her tits! Get experimental. But only if she’s into it.

    BITING!

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    Biting, if done right, can provide some incredibly erotic, animalistic pleasure. Slowly kiss and eventually start nibbling all over her body. Hot spots to hit are her neck, shoulders, hips, thighs, and butt.

    Don’t bite her pussy. You wouldn’t want her to bite your dick would you? It’s just common courtesy. Depending on her reaction, bite with more intensity, but never break the skin…I mean…unless that’s what she wants…

    HAIR PULLING!

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    Pulling your lady’s hair during sex can tug on hair follicles, which in turn stimulates the nerve endings at the back of the neck (which is an erogenous zone). On top of that, pulling hair during sex is an act of aggressive dominance but without being too violent.

    You’re asserting yourself, dominating her, which might just turn her on. Maybe she’s into getting dominated? I don’t know. Pull her hair, see how she reacts and take it from there.

    HOLD HER DOWN!

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    Think of this as your intro to bondage. There are times where women want to run their hands all over your body during sex, but don’t let them. Pin her arms down by the wrists and don’t let her move them at all. Pin her to your bed, up against a wall, a desk, wherever! This is an act of dominance that should tickle her rough sex fancy.

    If this drives her absolutely wild, then talk to her about using handcuffs or tethers the next time around because it’s basically the same thing as pinning her down, however she’s consenting to being submissive. And then once you’ve entered the wonderful world of bondage, you can get all kinds of kinky with whips, ropes and whatever else might peak your interest.

    CHOKING!

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    Honestly, I’m not a fan of choking during sex, but throwing a choke into sex definitely would then constitute the sex as rough. Because choking reduces the oxygen to the brain, and results in somewhat of a hallucinogenic state, it has developed into a fetish for many people. Sadly, many people have died in an attempt to achieve the light-headed orgasm. SO PLEASE BE CAREFUL.

    Personally, I recommend simply holding her neck rather than actually choking her because it provides that same sensation of submission and control. PLEASE BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL WHEN IT COMES TO EROTIC ASPHYXIATION. 

    JACKHAMMERING!

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    What do I mean when I say “Jackhammering”? I mean think of your dick as a jackhammer and her pussy is piece of concrete that needs to shattered into pieces for the sake of the whole city’s infrastructure. As far as rough sex goes, jackhammering is the most literal interpretation of rough sex. Just pound away with a pace and intensity that has only been seen by male pornstars.  You never know it might just work.

     

    Ryan P., I hope that these suggestions help inspire some confident moves in the bedroom with your older Latina E.R. nurse that likes rough sex.

    While my suggestions are foolproof, I will say this: ASK HER ABOUT WHAT SHE LIKES. The only way you’ll ever be sure of what she wants or how she defines rough sex is through communication. You might find out what gets her off through guesswork but my advice is to talk to her and find out firsthand. Plus, communicating with her shows that you care.

    But thank you for asking me first, it shows how much you care.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

    OR

    Use the contact submission form.

    July 6, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 42042

  • Pseudoscience Report: A Third of Women Have Gone Through Year Long Sex Dry Spells

    In your pseudo-science report of the day, sex toy company LoveHoney recently posted the results of a survey which polled 1500 online users. According to the results of the poll, one third of women have gone through sex dry spells that have lasted for a year.

    A year! Where you @ dudes?

    Keeping sexually active is not always the easiest. According the the study, most of the reasons for sexuality inactivity involve boring and tedious real-life problems, like being stressed out and being too busy for work.

    Turns out that a good chunk of women are actually sort of fine with their sexual dry spells however, with 23% saying they’re fine with going through a big drought.

    One of the more interesting parts of the study is as follows:

    “A quarter of women have ended a break in sex with a one-night stand or a casual fling, compared to 34 per cent of men. A further 36 per cent of women have resumed sex by sleeping with a friend with benefits – a pal they can enjoy sex with but not date.”

    So get your friend to lend a helping hand!

    6509597 i feel like they are watching some porn while she fingers her Pseudoscience Report: A Third of Women Have Gone Through Year Long Sex Dry Spells

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    Makes sense. If I was going through year long sexual dry spells I would be going through my phone looking for any acquaintance that might be willing to help me out with my problem. One night stands aren’t the most satisfying, in my opinion, but sometimes you just gotta open up those floodgates you know?

    Since this study comes from a sex toy company (one of the biggest in the UK), I’m going to question the intentions behind this poll. Put two and two together, y’all. If people aren’t having sex, and are frustrated, they’re probably more likely to invest in that expensive vibrator so they can take matters into their own hands.

    “Hey, I want a sex toy but I’m too embarrassed to go to a sex shop, oh, hey wait a second, this study I’m reading is published by an online sex toy distributor – where’s my credit card again?”

    1650600 live female orgasm oh big brother i miss you so much Pseudoscience Report: A Third of Women Have Gone Through Year Long Sex Dry Spells

    July 4, 2014 • Sex, Sex News • Views: 19049

  • Can You Suck Your Own Dick? – Chico’s Sex Advice

    Welcome back to another edition of Chico’s Sex Advice where I use all my expertise as a sexpert to answer any questions my beloved readers may have about sex.

    If you need sex advice or if you have a question about sex that needs answering, feel free to send an email to cdusty@sex.com OR use the contact form and I’ll answer as quickly as possible.

    Today’s question comes from Jabar:

    “Hey Chico, was just wondering if it was possible for man to suck his own dick?”

    Oh so you want to suck your own dick eh?

    Every man, sooner or later, will always have a moment in his life where he attempts to achieve enlightenment aka suck his own dick.

    Being able to suck one’s own dick, while always a hit at parties, is not easy. It requires a lot of flexibility. Because even if you can bend your body in a way so that your mouth can reach the crotch, keep in mind that you’ll have to stay like that for a while, sucking your own dick until you cum or you’ve simply had enough.

    So my first piece of advice is to stretch. Stretch all the fucking time. Your legs, your back, your hips and ESPECIALLY YOUR NECK. Stretch everything. Because if you don’t have the flexibility, forget about sucking your own dick. Spend at least a week stretching and getting limber before attempting to suck your own dick, otherwise you’ve got yourself a one-way ticket to Disappointmentsville, population you and your unsucked dick.

    Besides flexible, you need to be thin to suck your own dick. If your belly is so big that you can’t even see your junk while naked, then I have bad news for you. You’ll never be able to suck your own dick.

    Now, if you feel flexible and thin enough to try to suck your own dick, these are the ways I recommend you try it:

    STEP 1. GET HARD

    Unless you’re a professional contortionist, there’s no way in hell that you’re going to suck your own dick without an extremely rigid erection. I recommend that you use a cock ring for maximum erection rigidity and so that you can stay hard while you struggle to get your lips to your own dick.

    STEP 2. PICK A POSITION

    Pick a position. Any position. Well, preferably one that you’ll be most comfortable sucking your own dick in.

    Popular auto-fellatio positions include:

    – Lying on your back and lifting your heels over your head, bringing your dick within sucking proximity. Lying on hard surfaces often increase the success rate because soft surfaces have too much give.

    – While seated, bend at the waist and bring your mouth down to your erection. Congratulations! You’re sucking your own dick!

    These might be somewhat strenuous positions to put yourself in, so if you have a really sex positive girlfriend (or perhaps one that refuses to give blowjobs anymore) ask for her help! She can help stabilize your body, guiding either your hips up to your face or your head down to the dick. Whatever works I guess!

    If you are able to suck your own dick through my advice, please don’t be shocked when you cum in your own mouth. Just remember all those times you came in a woman’s mouth. Fair is fair. Also, while attempting to suck your own dick, keep a phone nearby in case you injure yourself and need to go to hospital. You can always tell them that you were doing nude yoga and not trying to suck your own dick.

    If none of these techniques are not helping you suck your own dick, then I’m sorry but nature has decided that we were not meant to suck your own dick. Luckily, there’s an alternative. You can always go out for a fancy dinner or spend some dough on a thoughtful present and chances are someone will suck your dick for you. Enjoy that dick sucking while you can, because unfortunately, you are not blessed to do that to yourself all the damn time.

    Probably for the best. If all men could suck their own dicks, civilization as we know it would end. And of course the civilization as we know is the male-dominated we live in. I’m sure women would step in while we’re all busy sucking our own dicks, run the show, and everything would be fine. Possibly better.

    I love answering your sex questions! If you have a sex question for me:

    Send an email to cdusty@sex.com

    OR

    Use the contact submission form.

    June 26, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 23169

  • Top 7 Hottest Things a Girl Does During Sex

    And I mean besides the obvious BJ/eating out, HJ/fingering and basically just letting you have sex with them.

    1. Moan
      The over the top fake kind doesn’t exactly work for me, but hearing a girl moan during sex or make any kind of pleasurable noise is such a turn on because it’s a confirmation she’s enjoying herself. (And that’s a hell of an ego boost)
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    2. Suck on your finger
      I guess it’s because of the anticipation of what this means, but man, when a girl sucks on my finger I can barely contain myself.5284383 gif photo Top 7 Hottest Things a Girl Does During Sex
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    3. Giggle
      Moans are #1 on this list but the giggle during sex almost ties, I’m not going to lie. It’s just plain adorable.

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    4. Take control
      I like to be in control in bed usually, but a good playful struggle for control is fun and usually comes with some giggles too.

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    5. Arch her back
      I can’t even justify why this is sexy. But it is.
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    6. Bite or scratch at you while you’re fucking her
      Not for everyone, but most people I’ve talked to have found this incredibly arousing. I guess it’s the same appeal hickeys have, they not only feel painfully good but it’s like marking territory. Everyone will definitely now know what you did last night.3342476 biting her ear and touching her pussy Top 7 Hottest Things a Girl Does During Sex
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    7. Wearing your clothes after sex
      Okay this technically shouldn’t be on the list because it doesn’t happen during sex, but to me it definitely calls for round two when I see her wearing one of my t-shirts later.
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    I’m absolutely sure there are a tons more where this came from. Does anybody have any to contribute?

    -Red Velvet

    June 26, 2014 • Sex, Sex & Dating Tips • Views: 26661