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I recently signed up for a pole dancing class after my friend begged and begged and begged me to buy the “Groupon” package with her. Continue Reading
I read a really interesting article today that breaks down some of the biggest misconceptions mainstream media and the general population have about sex work and its litany of workers.
Here’s the article.
I have mixed feelings about the article.
My main problem with the article is that, in its efforts to provide a real look at sex work, it manages to sensationalize and generalize what a lot of people probably do or don’t know about sex work. It’s obviously an extremely important subject that we should all try and be knowledgeable about, but buzzfeed-ification of the content doesn’t really help matters – the article looks flashy, and everyone loves top 10 lists (top 9 in this case, I guess), but the content never really dives below the surface.
Still, this is a great introductory piece about sex work to get those rusty old cogs in your brain turning. It brings up some interesting points that I personally had no idea about. The one that surprised me the most was point #4:
“The common pop culture image of prostitution would not be complete without a swaggering, violence-prone pimp hovering in the background. However, research suggests this phenomenon might not be nearly as prevalent as television would have us believe.
In a study of underage prostitutes and young adult sex workers, researchers found that only 10% of the 249 participants had pimps, and 47% of participants did not even know a pimp.”
I honestly was not aware that a minority of sex workers (at least, according to this study) are employed by pimps. My idea of sex work in that sense was definitely informed heavily by mainstream media, and the classic idea of a pimp. Glad I was wrong, though!
As sex work and the legalization of prostitution remains a hot button topic, its important to remember this key fact:
Everyone should have total control of their body and how they use it. If someone wants to sell their body for sex in a prostitution sense, or even in a stripping or pornography sense, they should totally 100% be allowed to without any fear of violence, criticism, or sex-shaming.
Gotta let people do their thangs!
Here is the email that I got from George:
“Marni I want to date a stripper, I think we have a connection, nevertheless she is a very special person, she was taken aback and did not expect me to tell her how deep of a person she was, what to do I do next? I want to be fair and upfront with her, but I do not want to make her feel uncomfortable.”
Marni answers : “Ok George, stripper or not, it sounds that you met a woman you were highly attracted to, that you really would like to know and who you feel you have a connection with. Right?”
That’s great! Remember this:
“A woman is a woman whether she is a grocery cashier, a police officer or a stripper; meaning we all have need expectations and sexual desires when it comes to man, and the man we want. I actually happened to be friend with strippers and some pornstars, they all say the biggest turnoff for them is when men treat them like strippers and pornstars instead of like normal women who have feelings. In fact, I’ve actually seen totally awesome men become pervs and hornballs when interacting with strippers and pornstars even when these girls were off duty. These women always handle their behaviour very well, but I could sense that it totally turned them off.
As long as you treat her like a woman,someone who deserves respect, attention and to hear how do you feel as opposed to just another stripper, you could do no wrong! Even if you didn’t know her occupation i would advice you to be upfront because that what, we girl,crave for men. The goats to tell us how you feel us and your intention.
So be bold, be yourself and be upfront with her about how you see her. It seems like she’s already taking her guard down as very comfortable to speaking to you. Now turn off the heat. And go after what you want. Trust me there’s a good thing there.”
I hope that answered you question George.
When a stripper says she’s only stripping to help pay her way through college, 90% of us just politely nod while refusing to believe it at all.
The stripper might as well have told us that her dog at her homework, that she can’t sleep with us because she has a headache, and that it’s her not us. We’ve heard that excuse before and we’re not having it.
However, I think it might be time for us to reconsider the stripper’s oldest excuse for stripping. The other day, a student/stripper from Atlanta (home of the hottest and biggest bootied strippers) took to reddit to prove once and for all that being a stripper to put yourself through school was legit.
How did she prove it? She posted a picture of $3,345 cash from a single day’s work. Damn. That’s a lot of money. Let’s look at it in one organized pile: Continue Reading
Sexting has claimed yet another victim.
Scott Sassa, an executive who oversaw Hearst’s ESPN interests (Hearst is a publishing company that owns 20% of ESPN), resigned from his position today after an L.A. based stripper forwarded a series of sexts to his colleagues. According to Page Six, the sexts were “illicit”, “steamy” and used language that “”you absolutely would not want your bosses to see.” (I should hope the sexts were illicit, steamy, and obscene, otherwise what would be the point of sexting?)
Sadly, the stripper from L.A. was working with her boyfriend to extort Sassa. She had been threatening to distribute the sexts if he refused to pay her. As you already know, Sassa refused and he was fired. Even though the stripper didn’t get any money, she still won.
Sexting is a fun and easy way for adults (18+ only) to engage in foreplay when they’re away from each other. Yet for some reason, a lot of adults don’t seem to know how to do it properly. Smart, competent adults keep getting in trouble for sexting. First there was Brett Favre, then Anthony Weiner, and now Scott Sassa. They’ve all been publicly disgraced because of sexting.
Until texting becomes an obsolete form of communication, sexting isn’t going anywhere. So whether you’re new to sexting or a seasonsed-sexter, we thought it would be a good idea to review the fundamentals of sexting so that you can have some sexual phone fun without getting into trouble. Continue Reading
Just a friendly little reminder that if you’re planning to be in Tampa this weekend for the National Republican Convention, make time to visit Thee Dollhouse strip-club. Sarah Palin will not be attending the Convention but her pornstar look-a-like Lisa Ann will be stripping as the former-governor.
Lisa Ann’s Palin impression first paid-off in Hustler’s Who’s Nailin’ Palin? in 2008. Since then, Hustler has made five more Nailin’ Pailin movies.
In an interview with GQ, Ann revealed, “I feel like I’m her rep at this point. Like, “Hey, don’t worry, I’m your double. Just stay at home and relax with your family. I’ll take care of this convention thing.”
Take of the convention she will. Apparently conventions like these bring in a lot of business to strip clubs and that some strippers count on them for financial reasons. So whether or not you get to see Lisa Ann dance as Sarah Palin, if you’re in Tampa make sure to tip your dancers.
Send us a picture of yourself with Lisa Ann in her Palin suit for a prize!